As much as we try to pretend that money doesn’t matter when there is love, we all know that we only say this as consolation just to make ourselves feel better sometimes. Money is in fact essential in everything, Love included. Having said that, I want to declare that I do not mean to say that love is dependent on money or vice versa. I’m only pointing out that money makes love sweeter and spicier.
No matter your financial stability, it is important to know how to manage your relationship in case of turbulence.
And for some of us that are not financially buoyant but have someone in our lives we intend to keep forever, it is important to also understand how to treat this people in order keep our relationships with them.
These Four Points will help you understand how to keep our love life intact when there is not enough money sustain it;
1. Empathy
Being Able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes is very important. Try see through your partner’s situation. As a woman, if you have a man who is always kind towards your needs but suddenly things stop going well for him, you should understand that life is not always a smooth ride. Sometimes, one meet bumps along their path so before you make requests from your man during his time of bumpy ride, take a step backwards and see through his circumstances.
Remember the times he had and all he did. Take it as an opportunity to show up for him too, that is if you are capable. It doesn’t hurt anyone to help in a relationship you both created. And if he is the kind that doesn’t feel comfortable accepting financial help from his woman, that is okay. You don’t have to stress over that, All you need to do is not add to his problems, Be his peace.
2. Gifts Giving
Sounds a bit uncomfortable right? I mean, we’re talking about financial instability here. But what do you do if gift giving is one of your partner’s love language? How about a situation where you feel inadequate for your partner because you don’t have gifts to offer him or her? What do you do?
It’s simple, You extend the gesture. You gift your partner an unforgettable memory. At this point, it doesn’t matter at all how much it’s worth, what matters is the intention behind it, right? This is where creativity comes in. Remember, every tiny bit of gesture you extend matters.
It might seem little, but you can make it grand. For example; if He/she is a big time movie person but You don’t have money for movie tickets. This is where the popular Netflix and chill come in. Cozy up the room and make it super romantic. Like I said, it doesn’t matter how much you spent, the gesture is important.
Be creative. If you can’t afford a dinner date, make nice dinner at home. Create opportunity for memories. You could make Arts together, dance to your favorite music together, you can even do a class together. This will not only spice up things between you and your partner, it will also enable you spend more time with them so you can learn more of their love languages, personal interests and help you both relive your stress.
3. Kindness with words
It is said that “a Kind word is like a blanket, it keeps the heart warm During times like this, one should always be mindful not to say the wrong things to your partner. There is nothing as worse as having a partner who taunts you with their words rather than lifting you up with them.
How about a situation where your partner might not even be aware of your financial instability and she is likely to make a request that is beyond you? This is likely to make you feel enraged and then the need to flame up might just pop-up. It is totally normal, we’re all humans. So instead of flaming up and then making it seem like she’s being insensitive towards a situation she doesn’t even know anything about; thereby hurting both yourself and her with the things you will probably say out of annoyance, why don’t you just calm down and say something soft to her in an assuring manner. Words that will make her know that if you had enough, you’d do anything for her. That way, she will get a glimpse of understanding that you’re currently unable to tend to her needs.
However, it is rather wise of you to be open about it. Let her know what you are going through at the moment. This will help the both of you to avoid an awkward situation where she make requests and then you just flame up or even feel insulted by her request. A woman who loves you dearly wouldn’t ask for things she know you cannot afford.
And as the woman, It is also your duty to be kind with your words when your man is going through this phase. You can even send him random Text messages that contain words of encouragement. Whenever he talks about what is going on and how much it stresses him not be able to provide for either of you, you should be there to say the right words to him. Tell him words of affirmation. Let him know that you believe in him. He is your man, motivate him. If he like to read poems, look for one that suit his situation and send to him. Anything to make him feel better. This will give him peace knowing that you have his back. While on your side, you feel the sense of belief that he will bounce back on track.
4. Praying together.
I understand that there are some of us that doesn’t like going all religious in situation as practical as this one, We would rather go Logical. That’s okay.
On the contrary to that, there are others that still have their faith locked on Prayers. They believe in the supreme being to always turn things around. If you’re one of this sub, then this is definitely for you.
As important as prayer is for you, it is as well important to Learn and cultivate the culture of praying together with your partner. Get on those knees together and pray. It feels good knowing that you both share the same prayer points and want the best for one another.
Now there is this question that probably lingers around your mind; What if you practice different faith? Am I Right? Now I ask you, does it even matter at all that you both practice different religions? The aim is to keep a firm relationship in times of hardship, right? You two can simply agree on a particular mode of prayer, one that won’t hurt either of your beliefs.
Praying together as a couple will help strengthen the bond you both share and create this internal serenity in the relationship that enables you to always believe in one another no matter the circumstance.
