Heartbreaks are unpleasant occurrence that has happened to almost everyone at some point in life. It might occur either due to natural cause, mutual agreement, personal opinion or even third party intervention.
In romantic Relationships, break-ups are bound to happen and this causes heartbreak to the victim involved. There are situations that are likely to grow beyond repair and this situations breaks our heart so badly that moving on seem very impossible.
Breaking apart from someone you you are emotionally attached is very hurtful. Cutting the strings of a relationship kite might happen either as a result of disloyalty, lose of emotional rapport, distance, lack of connection, genotype issues or mere misunderstanding between couple.
As mentioned earlier, a heartbreak is an unpleasant occurrence. It is so hurtful that it can put one in an unimaginable mental state. However, knowing how best to come out of this state is very important in order to avoid this event from causing a permanent negative effect in your life.
The pain associated with heartbreak is a kind that one cannot avoid when it happens. However, dwelling too much on this can make you forget who you are.
Recovering from heartbreak is very important in order to keep your mental health in check. This article will explain to you the basic steps you should take in order to mend your broken heart.
1 . Focus on yourself yourself
After a terrible heartbreak, you are likely to lose yourself, your routines and other habits. During times like this, best thing for you to do is focus on yourself, growth and past achievements. This will enable you to move past the whole series and help you navigate your energy towards other important things.
2. Take your time
Recovering from heartbreaks might seem like it will take forever. It is a bit similar to the pain one feel when they lose the person they love to death. The only difference is that when it comes to death, one cannot completely get over it as some events in your life tend to keep reminding you of the good old days. As a result of this, There are likely to be urges to reach out to the person and the reality that this person is out of your reach taunts you all over again.
However, in romantic relationships, After breakups, the person might be available and you are left to decide whether or not you want to reach out. It all depend on what gives you serenity.
That said, during heartbreaks, one significant step you must take is giving yourself all the time you need to process the event. This enables you to heal faster. So take your time and feel all the grievances, Pain only leaves after it has been felt.
3. Self assurance
Self assurance gives you the power to look at yourself again and take charge of your life. It boosts your confidence and give you all forms of self-validation and values.
You can do this by chanting to yourself the things you wish you were told. You can say things like; “I am good enough, I am the best thing that can ever happen to anyone or I am enough”
Telling yourself all these will give you the strength and courage to get back on your feet and not let the heartbreak get the best of you.
4. Write down your feelings.
One easiest way to lessen the pain caused by heartbreak is talking to someone about how you feel. However, having to speak to someone about how you feel might not seem like your best option at the moment. This is why you should get a piece of paper and pour out everything you feel. There is no better listener than an empty piece of paper.
5. Look back at everything that happened.
Trying to reflect on everything might not seem like the easiest and wisest thing for you but trust me, it will give you a clearer understand of everything and the reasons behind it.
When someone you love leaves you, you feel worthless and likely to blame yourself for everything. Looking back at everything give you a better understanding and this is when you know where you got it wrong, where you did right by your ex and possibly help you realize whether or not you were treated right.
Reflecting on everything helps you lessen the blames you have on yourself and guide you towards the next possible step which is moving on.
6. Seek professional help
After all Said, it is very important that you see a therapist for help especially if you find it difficult to move past the event despite trying everything else.
Seeking professional help is a very essential help for your personal growth and mental health. The therapist leads you out of the pain and possibly prescribe medication if necessary.
Heartbreaks are terrible events especially when you are still emotionally attached to the person and moving on seem impossible. Just take it easy on yourself. With time, it will all go away.
