In physics, we were taught in General Law of Attraction between magnets that “Unlike magnetic poles attracts”. This law is presumably applicable to the chemistry between us as humans. We are likely to always feel attracted to people whose personality is completely different from ours. This is why an introvert is usually attracted emotionally to an extroverted person.
An Introvert is a person who tend to always shy away from social interactions and feel much more comfortable with his or her own company. While an extrovert on the other hand is a highly spirited person who enjoy having social interactions and feel a lot more energetic around other people. These two factions have distinctly different personalities.
However, due to the adverse difference in their personality, synchronizing their energy is somewhat difficult especially for the introvert in the relationship.
A lot of people usually associate the romantic relationship between an Introvert and an extrovert to be an intensively demanding one. Especially with the fact that the Introvert involved will find it tedious to match up with the energy of his or her extroverted partner.
As an introvert, there is a tendency to always feel less dominating in the relationship and this is why it is easily assumed that it is the introvert’s duty to always compromise in his/her personality in other to level up to the partner’s energy. This is not how it should be. The energy between an introvert and an extrovert in a romantic relationship should in fact be synchronized.
This article will explain to you the four necessary tips that you must learn as an introvert with an extroverted partner.
1 . Learn the habit of saying ‘NO’ when it is necessary.
I understand that introverts have a problem with declining requests from others even when they are uncomfortable with these requests. Saying ‘No’ to your partner is not Resentment and it is not because you feel resented towards your partner. It is just to make your partner understand that you are uncomfortable with his or her request.
However, caring for your partner’s feeling is important but it is only worse that you have to get uncomfortable for his or her comfort. Understand that you don’t have to be a pushover in order to make your partner happy.
Declining requests that doesn’t sit well with you is a way of setting healthy boundaries in the relationship. Doing so creates better understanding of your personality to your extroverted partner.
Learn to Say ‘No’ when it is necessary. Most importantly, say it Nicely.
2. Don’t try too hard to impress an extrovert.
Let me tell you one thing; Being an introvert is all the charm you need to sway your extroverted Love interest. So take it easy on yourself.
Trying too hard will only make him or her get used to a counterfeited version of you and it will be hard for you to keep up with the act in the future. So just be yourself.
An extrovert has the ability to work around different forms of energy around them. So just relax and who you truly are.
3. Be open with your feelings.
Communication is one vital key to a healthy relationship.
It is no longer news to anyone that an introvert have a big problem with communication.
However, You cannot expect a person to understand the things you keep to yourself. Your partner cannot read through the feelings which you choose to conceal either due to the fear of your partner’s reaction or the fear of being misunderstood.
An extrovert have a special ability to understand others easily. That said, Understanding comes only after feelings have been communicated to each other. This is why it is very essential for you to open up to your partner whenever the need arises. Don’t keep to yourself at all times.
4. Do not confine an extrovert to yourself alone.
An extrovert is a social being. He or she is like a human party or best described as an everybody’s somebody. An extrovert keeps plenty of friends, they know a lot of people and as well known by lots of people. He/she is a free being. This is because the energy of an extrovert is dependent on their ambience and the people that surrounds them.
Confining your extroverted partner to yourself alone rips him/her off his or her freedom. This reduces his or her energy and consequently result to conflict between you two. So, if you as an introvert is in a relationship with an extrovert, allow your extroverted significant other to associate with other people.
Conclusively, an extrovert is an energetic, friendly and socially confident being. As an introvert, the best person to have a romantic relationship with is an extrovert. Ultimately, dating or marrying an extrovert helps you boost up your self confidence and innermost energy.