You probably have this particular woman you’ve been hanging out with for a while now and you’re beginning to feel emotionally attached to her. If you wish to be more than friends with this woman, then keep reading.
Most men feel some kind of emotional rapport with their female friends and this gives them the urge to be more than friends with her. As a man, when you’re attracted to a woman, you feel the urge to always have her around and the zeal to make her your own woman. You find her beautiful, friendly, funny, smart or kind. It is even possible that some other people do not see through these attributes of hers, only you can see them because you’re emotionally attracted to her and this attraction made you feel the need to pay more attention to who she is.
However, opening up to your female friend about your feelings, you get worried that she might turn you down and things become awkward between you two and ultimately spoil the friendship that you both had. This probably scare you off to keep quiet and not make the move.
Before you keep quiet, Have you thought of the possibility that the feelings could be mutual? what if she likes you back? What if you really can’t stop thinking about her until you make the move? This is why you must ask her out and most importantly do it right.
Here are 10 guidelines that will help you win her over.
1 .Check on her often
You see all those texts and frequent phones you think they’re are negligible? They actually mean a lot to women (if she cares about you though). When you check on her often, you automatically register yourself in her mind. And the times when you don’t check in, she reaches out. Obviously she misses talking to you, that’s the essence of always reaching out in the first place.
2. Buy her gifts.
When you randomly gift her things, especially the ones she talked about, this gives her the sense that you have always listened to her. However, you don’t have to go all extravagant just to prove this. Get what you can afford.
Also, gifts are not necessarily material things. Gifts can also be in form of efforts that you give to her voluntarily to make her feel comfortable. For example, if you’re together in school, you can assist her with studying. Maybe make jottings of a particular subject she has a problem with. This make it easier for her to understand, right? Everyone likes to be taken care of, women especially!
3. Ask to hang out in exclusive places.
This will enable you to have an alone time with her. Since there won’t be any audiences, the ambience is free enough for the both of you to express yourselves.
4. Get to know her
While you’re hanging around, it is best to seize the chance to get to know her better. You can ask her questions about her self, her past stories or even career. But please, stick to comfortable questions. Don’t make it awkward for the both of you. If she feels comfortable enough, she’ll tell all there is to know about her.
5. Make eye contacts
Eye contact is a strong form of communication whenever two people are interested in each other. When a man is interested in a woman, he occasionally steal a glance whenever she’s not looking. To actually send a signal to her, make sure that your glances crosses path with each other. And when she smile and look away, You’re already getting there.
6. Say something funny or compliment her
After she has smiled, your next move is to say something funny. She already know that you like her, but things might get a bit awkward at the moment. Saying something funny will create a more comfortable ambience for the both of you.
7. Compliment her.
You can say something nice about her face, physique, her dress or even all three. You cannot win a woman over without actually complimenting her. Besides, her physical appearance is one of the reasons why you’re attracted to her in the first place. Let her know you appreciate her looks.
8. Make body contacts.
You can casually touch her, maybe hold her hands. But whatever you do, avoid sensual body contacts. You’d make her feel uncomfortable.
9. No pick up lines.
You do not need pick up lines for someone who you have been hanging out with. Imagine telling your friend “I hope you know CPR because you just took my breath away” First, you sound very cheesy, cute though but cheesy. And she’s your friend, she’s going to laugh over it because she assume it’s one of your jokes and that’s pretty much where it all ends.
Unless you’re trying to be funny, do not use pick up lines for a woman who is already your friend and assume that she takes it seriously.
10. Pop the question king.
Be assertive about this! Tell her what you want. Let her know that you are attracted to and you want be more than a friend to her. She has already received all of your messages, she’s only waiting for you to get on with it. Don’t hesitate anymore, Pop it up!
After confessing your feelings, you should wait for her response. At this point, you should definitely expect anything. Whatever her response is, just respect it and take it calmly. If she agrees to be your girlfriend, then you can celebrate. And if not, simply accept it with grace and move on.
